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Gay and into sports? February 2nd, 2013
Gay and into sports?

We wanted to post something today for all the gay, bi, and questioning sports-minded guys that read BornLikeThis.  There's so many guys that don't live a stereotypic gay life, but because our schools, sports organizations, and communities aren't always gay-friendly, it's hard for athletes to buck the norm and be fully, openly who they are.  Part of the work ahead is to change how sports, fraternities, and schools see and value gay-identifying people.  Part of the work is building ourselves up so that we can be up to the challenge of coming out, whenever we choose to do it.  To reach that second goal, here are some resources for inspiration or to find support.  You will feel a lot less alone after spending some time with these websites. OutSports: OutSports is an online magazine and community site about gay athletes and athletics.  They cover national sports, Olympic sports (you must check out diver Matt Mitcham!), hot straight athletes, opinion pieces, and personal stories from GLBT athletes on their struggles with coming out and coming into their own.  There are blogs, podcasts, photo galleries, member profiles, and forums to take in. GLSEN: This organization works hard at bringing progress to schools, advocating for ...

Ryan James Yezak – the man behind Second Class Citizens February 10th, 2012
Ryan James Yezak – the man behind Second Class Citizens A second class citizen is defined as: a person whose rights and opportunities are treated as less important than those of other people in the same society. It’s also the name of Ryan James Yezak’s upcoming documentary that, according to the Kickstarter page, will explore “the many areas in which gays, lesbians & bisexuals” are discriminated against within the United States. What should we expect? At this point, I’d be shocked if you hadn’t seen the viral video (above) that was released on Martin Luther King Day. This beautifully assembled video gained one million views within the first 24 hours and the campaign, which originally had a goal of collecting $50,000, has raised three-fold that - $153,500 at the posting of this article. To say that this campaign was a success may be the biggest understatement of the century. But fame and notoriety inevitably brings its fair share of criticisms. Within hours of the viral video’s release, activists were already calling into question if Second Class Citizens would be representative of the entire movement, due the video’s lack of queer women, people of color and trans folk. It was not Yezak’s intent to exclude queer women or people of color from the video. “I ...

Living Out Loud: Johnny De Vito October 14th, 2011
Living Out Loud: Johnny De Vito

Johnny De Vito shares his coming out story in celebration of our National Coming Out Day on October 11th.

Living Out Loud: Zaneta October 13th, 2011
Living Out Loud: Zaneta

So believe me I could talk on and on about coming out, but I would much rather hear your stories. So, I've opted for a short poem I wrote about identity and what it has meant to find myself.  I hope you all enjoy! But if you want the whole story: I grew up in pretty liberal household in New Jersey. I can not remember the exact moment when I began to question my sexuality, but I can say that I do remember my first crush. It was seventh grade. I was playing Grandpa Joe in a stage version of Willie Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, and I fell for Veruca Salt.  I came out to her and we dated for a year. That same year I came out to pretty much everyone as bisexual. My family was generally accepting, and my mother (who is my rock) was the most accepting of them all. I went through middle and high school dating both men and women (my love affair with Veruca alas  did not last).  I even tried to help start a gay-straight alliance in my high school, but we faced a lack of support from the administration, although they do now have ...

Living Out Loud: Joe Picini October 12th, 2011
Living Out Loud: Joe Picini

One thing my father started telling me around my junior year of high school was that college was going to be a fresh start. No one would really know me there and I could completely reinvent myself if I wanted to. I was fairly happy with the person I was – pretty much comfortable with my personality, but I knew going into college that there was one thing I wanted to change: I wanted to be open about my sexuality. Sure, my closest high school friends knew that I wasn’t exactly straight, but deep down inside I knew that as much as I wanted to be attracted to women, as much as I desperately wanted to be “normal” I was kidding myself. When I got to college, I was literally surrounded by people who were gay. It was almost overwhelming to be with all these people who were similar to me. Some were out for years, others still in the closet. I kept true to the promise I made to myself and lived openly as a gay man at college. I felt accepted by my peers for who I was and, for the most part, things were going really great. Now, I knew I wanted ...

Living Out Loud: Stephen Weisbrot October 12th, 2011
Living Out Loud: Stephen Weisbrot

I think that growing up in a small community in the shadow of New York City was an interesting place to develop as a male coming into his own skin. I lived less than an hour train ride away from the greatest city in the world (pardon the bias to all of you non-New Yorkers) where everyone is supposed to be open minded and liberal, but I wasn't actually living there. I was still in a small town with one main street, a local coffee shop where everyone hung out, and one train station serviced every few hours taking those who dared to dream outside of our bubble into an “actual reality”. By no means am I trying to knock the place where I grew up, though. It helped mold me into who I am and I hope to never lose sight of that. I guess I'm merely trying to convey to you that this was the type of place that everybody knew your name, business, social security number, and a whole lot more. It wasn't exactly an ideal situation for a a closeted gay man living in the body of someone who appeared to be just any other teenager. Just ...

Living Out Loud: Eduardo Lipe October 11th, 2011
Living Out Loud: Eduardo Lipe

I wanted to make my coming out story a bit different. Instead of writing I decided to record my story for all of you to hear. Now when I began to record my story I went on for much longer than I expected. If you look below you will see a graphic which represents a timeline that corresponds with my story. If you hover over it little dots should appear, and if you hover over them you'll be able to play my story. If you want the short form I suggest you hover over the last dot ("Coming Out Finale") over to the right. If you want to listen to it in it's entirety, I would suggest you go from left to right. Coming out is hard process for all of us, in my case it was an extremely difficult and draining experience. Find out why below:

Living Out Loud: Colin Brown October 10th, 2011
Living Out Loud: Colin Brown

You would think, that in a city where everyone is welcome, in a family that holds no judgments, in a school that is open to all ideas, that coming to terms with being gay would be an easy step. In a liberal culture, we hope that one day people discovering that they are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender will do so without even blinking an eye and neither will the people around them. Sadly, we are no where near that reality, because there are still too many people out there that think that being gay is a bad thing, and I’m talking about the straight people (or seemingly straight people *Cough* Ted Haggard *Cough*). In a perfect world, a person’s decision to come out would not be based on exterior factors or pressure, but what they feel inside. Even for me, a native of San Francisco, I did not want to come out. I did not want be different. I wanted to blend in - a face in a crowd of people that looked like me. I was afraid of how I would stand out and how people would treat me differently (and I know some of you are rolling your eyes ...

I’m No One Special October 2nd, 2011
I’m No One Special

Today, I’d like you to meet someone. His name is Cyrus Sinai. He’s a freshman at UCLA studying anthropology. He’s interested in international development and says that one day he’d like to work for National Geographic. He’s only eighteen years old, and yet he has already lived an extraordinary and inspiring life. The son of Iranian immigrants, Cyrus started actively attending the Mormon Church in fourth grade with his mother after a road trip to Salt Lake City. “I was very spiritual . . . I was active as I could be,” he said. He still has his copy of The Book of Mormon; it’s riddled with notes, highlights, and page markers. Yet, throughout his preteen years, Cyrus noticed that his thoughts and feelings didn’t always match what he read. He was conflicted, though as a young kid, he wasn’t sure why. One day, in sixth grade, Cyrus came across a book entitled In Quiet Desperation. It told the story of a mother struggling to reconcile her Mormon faith with her son’s homosexuality. “The moment I saw that it’s like it all clicked.” Cyrus was gay. “It was a very scary moment.” For months, Cyrus was depressed and suicidal. Constant prayer, he ...

Republicans in the LGBTQ Community August 21st, 2011
Republicans in the LGBTQ Community

The repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell and the passage of gay marriage in New York have made plain the stark divisions between Democrats and Republicans on LGBTQ issues. In each case, great attention was paid to just how many Republican votes were needed—that every Democrat would vote in favor was usually assumed. Those GOP members that “switched sides” were lauded for “breaking with party.” Because of this tendency to assume that party lines are black-and-white, blue-and-red, many people think that members of the LGBTQ community must belong to the Democratic Party—or, at least, that they should never support the Republican Party. And yet, there are, of course, gay Republicans. There are even conservative, yet pro-LGBTQ political parties, such as the Log Cabin Republicans and GOProud. The Log Cabin Republicans, on their website, state: “The core of the political philosophy known as conservatism is unbounded faith in liberty. This is driven by two beliefs: the power of the individual to self-direct his/her life and the proper role of government to protect and expand liberty, not to limit it. These dual beliefs validate gay and lesbian equality as sound conservative politics . . .” Their sill resolution also outlines specific beliefs and legislative goals for ...